The Childhood Wounds We Still Carry.

For a long time, I didn’t understand what was happening inside me, or why certain emotions or reactions would suddenly appear.

I would react, shut down, or pretend everything was fine.

It was when I discovered what many call the wounds of the soul that I started shedding some light on what I was experiencing.

On something deeper, older… that didn’t come just from the present situation, but from my story.

You’ve probably heard about them, haven’t you?

Personally, I feel like that name is almost too big, too abstract.

I prefer to call them childhood wounds —Because that’s where they begin.

We all carry them.

Some are more visible than others.

Some we hide better.

But all of them, in one way or another, continue to shape our relationships, emotions, and choices.

And it’s not to make us suffer.

It’s to bring us back to ourselves.

When I finally understood which wounds were mine, so much began to make sense.

I stopped seeing my reactions as flaws and started seeing them as signals —

As doorways to something that needed to be acknowledged.

Today, I’d like to share with you these five wounds, and the masks we build to avoid feeling the original pain. Maybe it’ll help you too, like it helped me.

🔹 Rejection

Mask: The Withdrawn

Core wound: “I don’t belong.”

You learn to disappear, to not bother anyone.

You might recognize yourself if:

— You’d rather isolate than impose your presence.

— You disappear at the first sign of conflict or tension.

— You often feel like you’re too much, even when no one says it.

🔹 Abandonment

Mask: The Dependent

Core wound: “I can’t do this alone.”

You constantly seek reassuring presence.

You might recognize yourself if:

— You feel deep anxiety when someone pulls away.

— You need constant reassurance.

— You stay in relationships that don’t suit you just to avoid being alone.

🔹 Humiliation

Mask: The Martyr

Core wound: “I don’t deserve.”

You sacrifice yourself, always putting others first.

You might recognize yourself if:

— You feel ashamed when you take care of yourself.

— You feel guilty for saying no or setting boundaries.

— You carry others without ever asking for help.

🔹 Betrayal

Mask: The Controller

Core wound: “I can’t trust anyone.”

You try to control everything, to stay safe.

You might recognize yourself if:

— You need to manage everything yourself, and struggle to delegate.

— You’re highly demanding — with yourself and others.

— You feel betrayed over “small things,” but it hits you deeply.

🔹 Injustice

Mask: The Rigid

Core wound: “I must be flawless.”

You disconnect from your emotions and harden.

You might recognize yourself if:

— You always feel the need to prove you're strong, capable, reliable.

— You don’t allow yourself to show vulnerability, even with loved ones.

— You often feel inner anger or frustration.

Keep in mind: these aren’t boxes to put yourself in.

They’re keys.

Gentle mirrors to better understand yourself.

You might relate to more than one.

In fact, the first time I discovered them, I felt like a part of me lived in each one.

Usually, two wounds dominate.

But most of us carry a bit of all of them, in varying degrees.

And if you’re wondering how to begin healing them, here are a few simple steps:

▶️ The first step is awareness.

Notice your reactions, without judging them. Name what you feel. Observe when the mask shows up.

▶️ Welcome the wounded child.

It’s not about “fixing” something broken. It’s about recognizing the part of you that once believed it had to protect itself at all costs.

▶️ Bring softness.

Say “no” when you forget yourself. Express what you feel — even awkwardly. Give yourself what you still expect from others.

✨ Ritual: A Letter to Your Inner Child

I invite you to take 10 minutes alone, in a quiet space.

Write a letter to the child you once were.

Tell them what you wish you had heard.

Reassure them. Let them know they’re no longer alone.

That they have the right to exist, to feel, to express themselves.

Read the letter out loud.

And notice what it stirs within you.

Remember:

You have nothing to prove.

You don’t have to be perfect to be loved.

You’re allowed to go at your own pace.

What if you took a moment to notice a situation that awakens something old in you?

Not to analyze it — just to listen.

Just to say: “I see you.”

Lucas

www.feeltoheal.eu